lying is the worst of it

and, for both the liar and the lie-ee it negates all bonds and binds as 'cover story'

whether truth or not

this is a sad disservice because it is not all cover story. it is not all a lie. but. the credibility of the butterfly effect is first to the scene, holding the biggest number in the shortest line up of usual suspects

so true. it is hard to tell the lie. so true. it is hard to be lied to. both liar and lie-ee relive the innocence of it, the betrayed innocence of the words, actions, results, after the truth is out. both grapple with questions

questions gurgle untapped emotion trying to determine and place respect and value. respect of self and others. value of self and of others

the liar feels.......

the lie-ee feels.......

.......devalued and disrespected

...because he has not been being hisself...because she has not been being herself. whether willing v. willingly or not. because she didn't have an option or the opportunity to be herself...because he didn't have an option or the opportunity to be hisself. whether willing v. willingly or not

despite the publicly stated 'majority' consensus that it is about the it of you. it's not

it is about you not checking the box when you were required to. it is about you being honest, and not honest as an out of options option. it is about you being honest and allowing the he or she or they to be honest with self and you about how it reacts inside to out. it isn't an it nor anyone's fault. it just is what it is - regardless of reaction

once this - truth and truth's reaction - is accepted as the issue, this article is easily about being gay...being biracial...having a criminal record...being an ex-obese...having an addiction...or any other of countless things we are or have or were or.......

- and not ignoring or pretending or lying, but being yourself