: n. v.t. 1, grant; give; restore 2, regret; reflect; station 3, said; written; cease; replace; accept


the forgiveness ~ apology dichotomy is so involved that it is a simple understanding - to owe is to give. forgive & apology are inverse footway on the path of order. path, as opposed to road, because paths are earthly and universal/order, as opposed to peace or union or. . .because order is objective and yielding

ok, so. what to do, what to say, what to feel, how to live when you are deserving. do nothing. say nothing. feel nothing. nothing that takes away from who, what you are, and how you live is never a direct regurgitation of external influences. at least, this is the goal. don't hijack the pulpit. let the debtor deal with it

it is not excusable, but it is human nature that some of us pretend & ignore, acting like nothing happened, hoping to go on like nothing happened...that some of us wait, wating for the 'right' time, and half of waiters honestly expect to while the other half look for and use any reason not to...that some of us jump, jumping at any opportunity to...that some of us delay, delaying half of the time to honestly do it and the other half of the time delaying to force someone else to...then there are those who wade, wading in the slightest 'over' they believe they have . . .

ignoring the appropriateness - appropriate, as opposed to necessity, because appropriate offers common courtesy - of an apology/of forgiveness . . . waiting to forgive/to apologize . . . jumping . . . delaying . . . wading . . . forgiveness, apology - they are equally misunderstood. still, however the face of forgiveness, the face of apology makes the appearance, that appearance is satisfactory perhaps but likely tolerable . . .

sad, but true, time is an it's anyone's guess ally

and since it is only in humility that participants step center of the path, surpise is absent on floating holiday for the news that resolution of it all is for, is about the giver. never the recipient. giver, as opposed to recipient, because giving forgiveness, because giving an apology is complete in and of the sincerity of itself. the recipient's reaction can not be controlled

however, the intention of the giver remains intact