It is nearly universal for a human to have a name; the rare exceptions occur in cases of mentally disturbed parents, or feral children growing up in isolation. A personal name is usually given at birth or at a young age, and is usually kept throughout life; there might be additional names indicating family relationships, area of residence, ... The Convention on the Rights of the Child endorses personal names as a human right. The details of naming are strongly governed by culture; some are more flexible about naming than others, but for all cultures where historical records are available, the de facto rules are known to change over time.

everything, most noticeably, most remarkably, most meaningfully people, changes over time. with each cancer survivor... with each new child added to a family... with each rape victim... with each death ... with each senseless war, on a people, on a land, on a individual quest in greed... with each life-event, yes, but more accurately, with each epiphany, people change. in this small existence, but grand psychological journey to change, we as self are created anew within our self

...like a delores becoming a deloris. like a tu'wan becoming a sakina. like a trenton becoming a kalil. johnson to bey. browne to brown...

self is a fluid fact. that fact is variably and precisely represented by both letters and pronunciation. for both individual and bloodline. for both immediate and generational bloodline. ok, so, don't worry over bloodline. last names - in some cultures - are for this. and, last names - in this function - are valid, they honor lineage while respecting self's connection to first name

this is about self. and, with each realization or comprehension of the essence or meaning of a specific change, a new self is introduced as the last self quietly exits, unnoticed. in a way it's sad. because with each last self that exits, a bit of innocence is lost. and, in another way it's sad. because it takes a couple last selves to exit before, in general, it is noticed that change has occurred. and, it continues to be sad. because often we say changing when we should be saying changed. because the transition has already taken place, and deserves respect in and of itself. while, in saying changing, it is lumped into a series of equally deserving changes - never to be acknowledge for their singular worth

the point: naming moments


names are strongly governed by culture. naming basically subscribes to the 'they say' category of fact. they say give your child a first, middle and last name it's sad that in our platform of progress to have two middle names is thought exotic. it's another kind of sad that to change your name as a testament of faith, as a letter:pronunciation-bound testament of new self, as a man to his wife's name, as an individual self actualized and conscious enough to seek perfection of that self-actualized self in such a minute aspect as name, is thought an abomination. it continues to be sad that this is based on an insolent, asinine system of paper trail and or - at the most benefit of doubt - system of relatives insecure to interpret your change to their fault or their disownment

names are strongly governed by culture. why not adopt, assume, encourage, respect naming moments. our name makes us. sometimes. we make our name. and, in turn, make others' names, too. names influence our journey. while our journey defines our name. names indicate past, future, present. yes. no. it is all relative

so. why be tied to the same name our entire journey

a name we didn't choose. a name that didn't choose us. a name - whether randomly or calculatedly - selected, selected by someone else. regardless of how it was picked, regardless of when it was picked, regardless of by whom it was picked. it was picked on the perceptions, ambition, bias, forethought, whim... of someone or some others else. it was picked independent of us; separate our exhibition of life




did they pick the right one? could they pick the right one? individuals and families are made proud and dishonored every day. male and female alike. self is self's burden. does it simmer down to accomplishment:non accomplishment? no. this is subjective. it is about journey, life, realizing, accepting, and not just leaving it at that

if you could pick your own name, would it be the right one? maybe. if life, if experience, if journey aka naming moments could pick - no not pick, but reveal your name? well then, it just might be right

naming moments. not life events. life events are subscribers of the they say category. naming moments. moments of precise self awareness. moments of window between self knew and self now. moments of undeniable next step, action, words, thoughts. moments, yes moments because it is the trigger, the pause before execute

execute. execute because a bit of you does have to die, sacrifice for sake of next, future you. execute of self. in the specifications of a period in journey. and since we already redefine our selves. and the definition and personification behind our name. why not seek perfection. perfection in as minute an aspect of self as name. rather than hand-me-down pairings of name with self... marienne managing on as a marian... richard managing on as a dick... letoya managing on as a latoyia... david managing on as a dave... L's, A's managing on as K's and T's...

there is no dispute that symbols are key to communication

self is a breathing symbol. speech, mannerisms, smile, aire, movement to non movement, wit, recovery, instigation. your name is the communication of you. it is the sum utterance of you. it is the expectations, the allowances of you. your key, your name needs to be precise

life is a steady flow of progression and degression of self. your name will and has changed with the progress and degress of self. just as layman is to technical, you are to your name that referenced crudely or more exact... it is just that we have, and may continue to be, content - not to honor self's naming moments with a name, but - to say she or he is or acts different